Fat person paranoia. Oh yes, those dreaded thoughts of anguish that people are looking at us and our extra weight in horror. Those crazy thoughts that we all have (I still have them). The ones where we seem to think that others notice the tiniest details of our chunkiness. I was reminded of this by a friend who is on this journey with us. Here is what jogged my memory:
“Ya know, I was always afraid of talking to “in shape” looking people, especially men. Fat my whole life, I figured they all made fun of me, or looked down at me, or felt sorry for me. Part of my fat person mentality is definitely that all skinny people think negatively of me. I appreciate and applaud you for sharing your story. If I saw you on the street, I never would have thought you’ve gone on the journey that you have through your life.”
So here are 5 simple ways to fight off this ugly beast.
- Remember all of the people who love/loved you the “weigh” you were before. You are a special person who is worth the effort and the love of others.
- Focus on and be proud of the hard work that you are doing. If you are not doing the work yet and you are just walking to the starting line, let this be a fire under your rear to help get you motivated.
- Remember that they are just people, albeit skinny people. They have there own fears. They are probably having the same paranioa as you. I am skinny now and I think that way sometimes, but I guess I still have a “fat mind”.
- Realize that they could have lost weight themselves and have the “fat mind” at work in their lives as we speak.
- Take it to heart that you are the captian of your own ship and you are going to make a huge difference in your life. This is the “I don’t give a darn what you think, even though you are not thinking it, I just think you are thinking it!” How’s that for a simple remedy.
Bonus: There is a thing called the looking glass self. Teens have it to the max. They feel that everyone is focused on them all the time. The truth is, no matter how big we are or how ugly we look, for the most part people just care about themselves when you’re out there in the public. They have things to do, places to go, and work to get done.
Hope this helps a little with your paranoia. It is all too real to me. I have felt like the wonderful woman who posted the comment a million times. Be blessed and have a great day.