Posts Tagged ‘health


Do you do this!

A fellow blogger reminded me of something that I know all to well but had forgotten about.  Maybe you know about it too.  It is those situations where you make fun of your weight to get the first shot in because you think other people want to get a shot in about your weight.  Here is what the blogger said in the comment:

“Its a hard habit to break when there have been so many years of self-deprecating humor and mean comments directed towards myself (by me) in an attempt beat others to the punch and let them know that I’m fully aware of my fat (when in all likelihood, the majority of them weren’t even the least bit concerned with my fat).”

Have you been the victim of your own “fat jokes”.  I certainly have.  I can’t even count the number of times that I joked about my weight just because I felt uncomfortable with it.  I wanted to make people laugh about it and when they did I secretly felt hurt in a way on the inside.  I can’t recall the exact things that I used to, and sometimes still say.  It is odd to me that I still do this even though most of my fat is gone.  But the comment blew me away.  The light bulb went off and I thought, “Oh my God,I did that for so long too.  This is not a healthy thing to do, but I and so many others have or still do it.”

What do you think, can we stop making fun of ourselves and maybe just take things for what they are and move towards health?  What are some of the things you used to say to make yourself the “butt of the joke”?  Did you or do you do this kind of self-depreciating joking?  Let us know!


This foodie post is for Mike. Dinner last night

This whole plate was 4 points

This whole plate was 4 points

Ok Mike, here is a post about some of the food that I eat.  This pic is of my dinner last night.  One cup of “Better ‘n Eggs”, 15 pieces of small potatoes wedges, veggies, and an Alternative Bagel.  It was a filling assortment of food and I really enjoyed it.  A very fast meal that took me about 10 minutes to prepare but got me full and satisfied.   At only 4 points, it is a good emergency “go to” if you don’t have many points left for the evening time.

Eggs beaters, bagles, greek seasoning

Here are the special ingredients by themselves.  The alternative bagels are 1 point each and are a great way to go for a carb.  The egg stuff is 2 point per cup.  I always use the Cavenders Greek Seasoning as my spice up for potatoes.  I love the Greek Seasoning.  I also use it for all meat that I cook whether it be chicken, beef, or pork.


One of the first things that I do when I get home is open the fridge and snack on the salsa that I have at the present time.  It is not always this kind, but I always try to have some on hand.  I eat it plain with a spoon right from the container.  This little gem helps get something in my stomach before so I don’t snack away during my dinner time preparations.  Salsa is an invaluable resource for my WW journey.  I eat it pretty much every day.  It does not last long in my house.  I also need to keep the chips out of the house or I will default to chips and salsa instead of just salsa thereby adding way more points than needed.

So coupled with these items that I ate last night, I also ate one banana, a giant shake that my sister invented that is only 4 points but extremely delicious and splurgy.  With these after dinner snacks my points eaten once I got home were 10.  Not to bad for having a huge amount of food.


A natural cycle of the weight loss journey. Don’t panic!

My journey towards health has an unavoidable cycle.  I think it is a healthy cycle, but it is one that brings about panic sometimes.  Like most things in life, my journey ebbs and flows from one direction to the other.  The same thing happens in relationships.  You get really close, then drift a bit, then get close again.  It is the nature of finding balance in the different elements of my life.  So the cycle is a good thing.  It is a learning process.  The longer I succeed on the journey, the closer to balance I get, the closer to my dream I become.  Keep reading to find out more about this cycle and the fears related to it. Continue reading ‘A natural cycle of the weight loss journey. Don’t panic!’


Do you ever fudge? Read this to see why I gained weight!

peanut-butter-fudgeThe cat is out of the bag.  I confessed it to my sister already so now it is your turn.  Lucky you huh!!  You may laugh, you may cry, you may say “Crap!!  I do that too!!”  So due to my weight gain at the last WI, I did some searching and recollecting on my food intake.  Oh yeah, I found a few little big fudges that I constantly do.  Not sure if they made me gain but they sure could have.

On this blog and on the WW boards, many many people recommended that I eat more.  But through my research into my gain I learned that eating more may not be the “final” answer.  I wondered if I should eat more but I also found out that I was eating more than I was documenting.  Thus the “FUDGE”.  The truth is that I am not sure how much I was eating but I am sure that I was eating more than I was counting.  I also found out from some very wonderful links and equations that I may have been over stating the number of points I was getting for exercise.  Not that I did this on purpose, but the WW online is a bit general in these activity calculations for running so I learned more accurate ways to do it.  I realized on this that I was not getting as many AP’s as I thought.  Read on to find out how I was fudging the heck out of things. HAHAHA Continue reading ‘Do you ever fudge? Read this to see why I gained weight!’


Weight loss miracle: I’m wearing my 8th grade graduation shirt!!

Me wearing my 8th grade graduation shirt

My wife thought I should do a post with this picture of me in my 8th grade graduation sweatshirt.  That’s right, I am actually wearing a shirt that fit me about 20 years ago.

I like to put it on when I am feeling fat or bad about myself and my weight loss efforts.  It is good for us to have things like this that can remind us beyond any shadow of a doubt that we have accomplished a huge thing.  This shirt does that for me. It is amazing that I can wear this shirt.

What do you use?  Before and after pics are great too.  If you are just starting, take some.  I know that you don’t want to take any, but when you lose that weight and you feel like you look the same as you did before; those pics will come in handy.  We need concrete proof sometimes.  We have an uncanny ability to forget where we have come from.  This is one reason why I think I and so many others revert back to our old ways.  We don’t believe the changes that we have made, we think they are not real “for us”.  Even when you look at this blog, you might think that it is so real for me, but when I look at your blogs it seems more real for you and not so much for me.  That probably didn’t make sense.  Anyway, have a good day everyone.

Oh yeah, try and remember today how far you have come.  Whether it is 10 lbs., 50 lbs., 100 lbs., or 200 lbs., we have all made a difference in our lives.  For ourselves, for our families.


Tired and vulnerable: After work eating antics

Pic from rib eating contest

Pic from rib eating contest



There are times when I have a crazy day at work.  I leave work feeling exhausted with a sense of entitlement.  That sense of entitlement tells me that “I deserve to eat whatever I want when I get home.  I worked hard, I want to relax with my friend (food).  I am worth it.”   It’s not  always a conscious thought, sometimes it is just sitting in the back of my mind and I almost don’t notice it.  But then, when I least expect, my resolve flies out the window and I go for it.  It doesn’ t happen all the time, but it does happen.

I am learning to remember this scenario on my way home so that I can assess it and stop the steam train before it starts to pick up speed.  After all, it is only going to take 5 minutes for me to blow my points, it is not even going to be very satisfying, it might bring a gain at the scale, and I will feel guilty for a couple of hours.
So now when that sense of entitlement says, “I am worth it,”  I agree and tell it right back that since I am worth it, I am going to take care of myself, live longer, live happier, and stay thin.  That IS worth it.
Everyone has crazy days at work.  Do you ever let your weight loss guard down when you get home from work?  Take the poll.

Best of both worlds. Got my chips but kept my points. Well, some of ’em

kettle chips baked

Last night I still wanted to eat those darn kettle chips.  A special person from the WW message boards recommended that I get the baked Kettle chips instead.  She posted the cals., fat, fiber.  Very helpful and encouraging person. So I got some last night and I think I made a big step towards health, at least in my own mind.  Instead of getting the fully fried kind that I really wanted in the full sized bag, I did something different.  I bought the baked ones in a personal sized bag.  This to me was a balanced effort to eat what I wanted yet stay on the healthier side of things too.  So here I am, eating my wonderful snack.  It amounted to 7 points.  Another amazing thing is that I only ate 3/4 of the bag and gave the rest to my wife.  By the way, these chips beat the pants off of baked lays because they are actual potato slices rather than compressed mashed potatoes.



kettle chips baked 2

I had a wonderful run last night too.  I did 6 miles at a 8:51 pace.  That is pretty good for me.  My new training program calls for more pace work to enhance my fitness instead of all loooooooooooooooooong slow running.  Long slow running got me in the shape that I am in and it is a great base, but as you know, I want more balance.  I don’t want to run for 14 hours a week anymore.  The program will get me in shape for my races in a little different fashion.

Other than the chips, my eating went well.  I used 11 of my extra 35 points after eating my dinner and some popsicles. Over all it was a good WW day and night.


5 ways to fight off fat paranoia!


Fat person paranoia.  Oh yes, those dreaded thoughts of anguish that people are looking at us and  our extra weight in horror.  Those crazy thoughts that we all have (I still have them).  The ones where we seem to think that others notice the tiniest details of our chunkiness.  I was reminded of this by a friend who is on this journey with us.  Here is what jogged my memory:

“Ya know, I was always afraid of talking to “in shape” looking people, especially men. Fat my whole life, I figured they all made fun of me, or looked down at me, or felt sorry for me. Part of my fat person mentality is definitely that all skinny people think negatively of me. I appreciate and applaud you for sharing your story. If I saw you on the street, I never would have thought you’ve gone on the journey that you have through your life.”

So here are 5 simple ways to fight off this ugly beast.

  1. Remember all of the people who love/loved you the “weigh” you were before.  You are a special person who is worth the effort and the love of others.
  2. Focus on and be proud of the hard work that you are doing.  If you are not doing the work yet and you are just walking to the starting line, let this be a fire under your rear to help get you motivated.
  3. Remember that they are just people, albeit skinny people.  They have there own fears.  They are probably having the same paranioa as you.  I am skinny now and I think that way sometimes, but I guess I still have a “fat mind”.
  4. Realize that they could have lost weight themselves and have the “fat mind” at work in their lives as we speak.
  5. Take it to heart that you are the captian of your own ship and you are going to make a huge difference in your life.  This is the “I don’t give a darn what you think, even though you are not thinking it, I just think you are thinking it!”  How’s that for a simple remedy.

Bonus:  There is a thing called the looking glass self.  Teens have it to the max.  They feel that everyone is focused on them all the time.  The truth is, no matter how big we are or how ugly we look, for the most part people just care about themselves when you’re out there in the public.  They have things to do, places to go, and work to get done.

Hope this helps a little with your paranoia.  It is all too real to me.  I have felt like the wonderful woman who posted the comment a million times.  Be blessed and have a great day.


Super Skinny Super Models: Give me something beefier!

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I don’t know about you, but I don’t like the modeling industry.  I had a friend back in the day who was a model.  She was 5’8″ and weighed 120 lbs.  After she became a model, they wanted her to lose 15 pounds.  That is crazy.  In order to do so, there was not much eating and a whole lot of partying.  The first picture from pennilessjellyfish had a comment by it that asked if guys thought that this was attractive.  I sure don’t think so.  Not that there is anything wrong with the girl, she just fell for the lie about health and  what is attractive.  The second picture dealt with Spain putting a ban on models that were too thin.  I like the idea myself.
I think that this overly thin look isn’t good for anyone.  It’s not good for the models, it’s not good for the kids, it’s not good for the adults, it’s not good for anything.  Sure it brings in the dough like crazy and that’s why they do it, but at what cost.  Most people have meat on their bones.  A whole lotta people have a whole lotta meat on their bones.  Boy, the pressure in that industry must be agonizing.  
I mean, I go to weight watchers and see all these wonderful and beautiful “real” women.  They will never look like this probably and I thank God for it.  They might want to look like this, but that is what makes me upset.  It ‘s good to have a visual image for your goal, but one that is healthily attainable as well as maintainable.  This is just my two-cents worth of course. 

I can see the future, but only through a fog!

Low visibility skiing

I can see into my future.  I can see my wife and I, driving up to the mountain with wild kids; all with our ski equipment in tow.  Oh what fun it will be.  In the picture above, you can see that I couldn’t see very far in front of myself during our last ski outing.  It was a blast, but the low visibility got me a little stressed out.

I can see what I want in my family’s future, but at the same time I have low visibility of it all.  I have hopes and I have fears associated with raising healthy children. This post is just about my anticipation of raising kids in an active family.  My wife and I will be starting that journey very soon.  Right now I am just enjoying the practice with this new body of mine.  HAHAHA  But in all seriousness, I want to have a healthy family who does active things together.  Be it riding bikes, running with my baby in stroller, hikes, talk-walks.  Oh I would love to have talk-walks with my daughter.  I don’t want my kids to have to be obese and feel bad about being fat.  I will love them nonetheless, but I don’t want that for them.  I am scared that I will fail in this area.  I worry that I will not set a good example of health for them.  I want to be at ease knowing that my children will experience life with a healthy, active, and participatory dad.  The good thing is that I am on the right track.  I have my goals and desires laid out before me.  I hope that this will lead the way to a healthy future.


I can see it in your eyes-do you see it in mine

eye-001I thought of this post while I was doing my long run a couple of weeks ago.  I think this every time I go running to my favorite park.  There are always a lot of people exercising on this park’s trail.  A lot of people who are just starting their journey go here to get their activity in because it is so beautiful. This is a very different post than normal but it is still on topic.  It is the conversation I have in my mind with the over weight person who I pass as we cross each others path and make eye contact.  So here it goes.

Hey, isn’t it great that us fat people are out here getting it done (I am looking jolly at this moment)Why won’t you look at me?  We are out here doing the same thing for the same reason.  We are both overweight and think we a fat.  Oh yeah, I am not fat anymore.  Maybe that’s why you don’t really want to make eye contact with me.  You try, but you turn away so fast.  I feel bad because you look embarrassed when you don’t need to.  I know how you feel though.  It is funny since you have no idea that I have lost 130 lbs and used to be even bigger than you are.  I wish I could make you understand.  I wish I could stop you and tell you not to be shy and ashamed, but to be proud.  I am proud of you.  You are out here.  I know it is hard and it might even be hurting right now, but you are moving.  Great job.   Soon, you will be like me.  You will be the one that people think have always been thin and for that reason they think that you think they are fat and gross.  But you won’t think like that right?  You will remember what I see in your eyes right at this very moment where we glimpse at each other.  I hope you can remember and have compassion when you reach your goal.  Right now, you have sadness in your eyes.  That heaviness that is present when you look at the vast amount of weight you are trying to lose.  I see that you are afraid of what I think and afraid that you are not doing enough.  I think you are doing fine.  Please don’t look at me with that look of, “Don’t look at me buddy.  You have never been fat.  You don’t understand.”  I do understand, can’t you see it in my eyes.

This is how it is so many times when I run by face to face with people on that trail.  I know the look in their eye because I had that look in my eye before too.  I only hope that they can see the compassion and understanding in mine.

I can see it in your eyes, but can you see it in mine?

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Perseverance: Key in losing weight, attaining goals, and living life!


Chinese symbol for perseverance

Hi there.  My name is Jason.  I have basically been fat all my life.  Even in times were I was actually not fat, I still felt or thought I was fat.  I am sure that many of you can relate to that.  Between Dec. 13th 2006 and Dec 13th 2007, I lost about 130 lbs.  Not only did I lose the weight then, but have kept it off since and have also been blessed enough to finish 7 marathons and 4 ultra-marathons.  I tell ya, it has been a tremendous journey to get here today.  The journey wasn’t always fun though, it had many ups and downs, it came with joy, it came with discouragement.  Although I am still on the journey, I think things worked out pretty well.  I want to share  with you a little of the journey because I want you to know that a normal, regular, obese or over weight person can accomplish amazing things.  If I could do it, I know you CAN do it.  A key ingredient to weight loss, fitness, health, and life in general is perseverance.

Perseverance: To keep at something in spite of difficulties, opposition, or discouragement (Websters). 

Throughout my journey, I have learned that this simple little trait can bring a person further than ever imaginable.  This word is in every aspect of what we are trying to achieve in our bodies, minds, and emotions.  It may take time to loss the weight and get healthy, but if you can just hold and persevere YOU WILL MAKE IT!

Here are some examples of cross-roads that I reached (we all reach)during my own journey when perseverance took me through.

Continue reading ‘Perseverance: Key in losing weight, attaining goals, and living life!’


Sex is for Losers! Weight loss can help!

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Sex is sometimes a taboo subject, but it is a normal part of life.  One of the possible benefits of being on our weight loss journey is more sexual enjoyment.  Now I know that I am a guy and all, but being 307 lbs even made me not want to do it sometimes 🙂  I also know that this can be a sensitive subject and I post about it with the utmost respect for my wife, myself, and all of you. We all know that sex has much more than meets the eye.  My good friend who was my teacher as I got my Masters degree in Marriage and Family Studies always used to say, “Parts is Parts.”  Meaning, our parts are the same.  We have the parts, we all have the goods to “do it”.  The point was, our brains are the most powerful sexual organ.  And this powerful organ is used to communicate.  That is simple fact!

So how can weight loss increase sexual enjoyment you ask?  Well, I am going to tell you some of my ideas and then point you to a couple of article on the subject.  Research has found that being obese has a negative impact on our sexual performance as well as desire.  Here are a couple of ways that my weight loss has affected that part of life.  Don’t worry, no perversion here.

  • More access.  This is totally embarrassing but it is just so simple.  Less stomach more access.  This is the least important improvement however.
  • Self-image.  When I was 307 lbs, I NEVER felt good about how I looked.  My wife was really nice and loved me at that size, but I did not love me.  After losing weight this improved and it helped my sex life because I felt better about who I was and how I looked.
  • Energy.  This may seem like no big deal, but 300 pounds is a lot of weight.  Losing those pounds made everything in my life easier physically, including “doing it”.  I mean hey, if I could hardly tie my shoes!
  • Improved communication across the board.  Communication is the most important aspect of the sex life since the brain is the most important organ in the sex life.  Once I started feeling better about how I looked, had more energy, and began to think more positive; I was able to communicate better with my wife in every aspect of our marriage.

Here are a couple of articles that talk about the positive things weight lose can do for our sex life and some of the negative things that being over weight can do.  Enjoy.  All clean articles.

Packed on the pounds.  This is a testimonial type article of a couple who lost weight together.

Common sexual problems amoung the obese.  This is an information article by WebMD

Weight loss improves sex.  This article is geared toward the male side of sexual dysfunction due to obesity.

Hope you enjoyed this fun topic.  See you next time


Want to quit in the middle of your run? Learn how to keep going

Coach Dean

Coach Dean

Warning.  Expert advice in this post.  This is another answer to a question I recievd during the last Q & A session.  It is a topic that we all deal with during our daily exercise and activity.  I am so glad that Coach Dean Hebert agreed to field this question.  He really knows what he is talking about when it comes to running, exercise, and sports psychology.  You may have read my post regarding the awesome encougement I recieved from him at a time when another “coach” really discouraged me.  There will always be those who try and keep us from achieving our dreams.  Coach Dean is one of the people who build us up and help us achieve our personal dreams.  If you need help with designing a good running/exercise program, he can help tremendously.  Here is the question that I recieved during the Q&A session:

“I’d like to know how you keep going during training, and don’t just go ‘that’s enough, I’m stopping now'”

Here is Coach Dean’s aswer

This is actually a more profound question than it appears on the surface. Certainly, physically there are certain limits depending on our general present condition. To push slightly beyond them is in fact how we improve conditioning and not just maintain our condition. That is good. On the other hand, reading our bodies and knowing when to back off because we don’t want to overdo it and get injured is quite another thing. My experience though is more often that people do not push themselves. We are accustomed to being comfortable. Discomfort is not something most of us seek out.

Which brings me to what is usually at issue: the mental aspect. As a Mental Game Coaching Professional I work with people constantly on this and related issues. The first point has to be that exercise itself has to become a value of the individual and not merely something being done out of guilt, or being done for someone else. These yield very short term motivation. So, what makes someone keep going is a deep down knowledge that they are better for sticking it out – physically and mentally.  Related to a “value” for working out is doing the type of workout that best suits the personality of the individual. Not everyone should be running (I know, that seems like heresy for a running coach to say.) But, waning interest and burnout are highest with individuals not matched personality-wise to their workout of choice.

So, with all that, let me also introduce that sometimes it’s OK not to push through. Illness, stress and general fatigue can greatly affect one’s motivation to complete a workout on any given day. If it is a random once in awhile thing, I would not worry much about it and just chalk it up to a bad day. Your goal is to just have the best bad day possible – as I tell my athletes. Do not succumb to the no pain no gain approach to training.

Now, perhaps more to the meat of your question: what specifically can be done to get through workouts? Continue reading ‘Want to quit in the middle of your run? Learn how to keep going’


I’m giving up, again!

scared-face-002I am giving up you guys.  I cannot take it anymore.  I will never do this again.  I hope.  There is one small,  really unhealthy habit that I keep going back to and I want to stop.  I was never going to talk about it because it is not about weight loss but it is about health and it is part of my journey.  I hate it and I want it to go away.  I am quitting my use of smokeless tobacco.  I have done it before and not been real successful.  Maybe that is because it was kept in the dark.  So today I bring it into the light.  Healing happens when we walk in the light of truth.  I am choosing to walk in that light today.  Sorry if it grosses some of you out, but I felt it important to get out.  I had just recently quit for a while but I just kept listening to the lies of why I should buy more.Quitting the chew  Here is a pic of the evil stuff.  My plan is to stop using it forever.  It so does not coincide with the rest of my life and health goals.  And plus, I have lost this weight and am looking pretty decent.  The last thing I need to do is mess my jaw and face all  up let alone dying young and leaving my wife early.  So there it is!


Warning! Food is more than just nutrition

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There may be an aspect of the weight loss journey that you forgot about.  Food to many of us, if not all of us, is so much more than just simple intake of nutrition.   We are all attached to food.  For me, Doritos chips conjure up feelings and memories of my childhood sitting on the couch watching Revenge of the Nerds.  Oh what fond memories.  Yeah, it made me fat, but the memories are pleasant.  Why?  Because the food made me feel better.  We all have these special memories.

We often think that when we get to the starting line of our weight loss journey, we just need to eat good and exercise.  Only we find out very soon that we have emotions attached to our eating.  What and the heck do we do when we can’t or don’t want to take our medication (food) anymore.  We need new medication.

What kind of new medication can we use to replace our old medication.  I think it is important to replace the old with something new.  If we don’t, we are in danger of not keeping the weight off.  This journey is more than just losing fat, it is about changing our lives and moving towards total health.  Here are a couple of my little suggestions with links to a couple of relevant articles.

  • Talking with others about our emotional journey.  This is weird for many, but not talking about it isolates us.  If you never talk about how you feel about food and your journey, you are likely to feel like you are the only one.  Just knowing that so many others feel like you is healing.
  • Exercise is a great emotional outlet.  It is a proven way to help depression.  It is also a good new medication in moderation.
  • Accountability will help us work through the baggage of our eating.  When you want to eat the whole pie, talk to someone, they will help you through it.  Just like you guys helped me through it.
  • Counseling and groups.  Many many people resist counseling, but it is not so bad.  It gives you an outlet to talk about your junk to someone who can see it for what it really is from the outside.  If this doesn’t work for you, try a group setting.  Run4change is a group setting.  Weight watchers is a group setting.  Blogging in general is like a group counseling session. You catch my drift.  Gathering around like minded people on the same journey is healing.

Hopefully these couple of little ideas can help us work through the inside journey while we are working on the outside.  Here are a couple of articles that may also help us:

Weight loss via emotional healing.  Don’t listen to the “DETOX” part of this article.  Detox is usually a fad perspective that is short lived, but this article has some insight though it is not perfect.

Emotional eating.  This is a better article than the previously mentioned one and should be pretty helpful.


How do yo balance your fitness life with being married? Q&A

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Being a married person carries with it a variety of time constraints.  This is a normal part of the knot being tied.  For this Q&A session at run4change, the first question to come in was regarding this wonderful aspect of life.  Being married and losing weight all at the same time.  How did I do it?  First of all, my wife always wanted me to lose weight.  Not so much before we were married, but later on when she began to think of having her husband die young..  She never focused on the looks of it but rather the health of it.  That is when she began to desire it.  So I always had her support.

I also need to be honest about my struggle with balance, not only with fitness and marriage, but in all aspects of my life.  I tend to the extreme.  I go for it really hard in what ever I am doing.  I get things done very well, but I have the tendency to leave other important things behind.  Running is a prime example.  It was no problem at first, but as the races got longer so did the training.  Finally, this last summer while I was in the bulk of my training for a 100 miler, it all exploded.  Audrey was missing me, I wasn’t getting anything that I wanted done around the house done, and I had absolutely no free time.  This hurt my wife and I feel really bad for that.  I gave up the 100 miler to be with her more and to live a more balanced life.  Here are a couple of things that I changed in order to attain more balance between fitness, weight loss, and marriage.

  • I focused on what was actually the most important things and calculated the costs.  For me, the 100 miler was an ultimate dream, but at what cost.  I realized I was not willing to pay the price to attain the 100 miler at this time in my life.  So I focused on the most important things like:  keeping the weight off, to keep eating healthy, go to my meetings, and exercise regularly.  I had to realize that a 30 minute run on Tuesday would get the job done and that I did not have to run 3 hours.
  • I began to let my wife chose the places we went out to eat more often.  This was more balanced and added more variety.  It also forced me to learn how to eat at places that I did not have a plan for.  Before this, I was very stringent on where I went and it probably really sucked for my wife.  I remember getting in a fight because I thought we should go to Subway for our special dinner. 🙂
  • I started doing fitness activities that my wife wanted to do for recreation.  Skiing is a good example of this.  I did NOT want to go skiing.  My wife really wanted to learn and explore it.  So in the name of love and balance, I went along with it knowing that it is another way to get my activity in.  I liked it once I went too.

Recap:  I am horrible at balance but I am learning how to do it more as my journey continues.  Finding balance between fitness and marriage is a function of focusing in on the truly important things on your journey and trying to incorporate your spouse anyway you can.


Great posts to look foward to next week!

Many posts to look forward to

Many posts to look forward to

Morning everyone.  I just wanted to get a post up today to fill you in on what is to come next week.  It should be interesting.  There are some great guest bloggers coming up and a few awesome questions answered through our most recent Q&A session. 

Things might change, but I really try not change anything after I tell you guys what is coming.  It is just that sometimes something great comes along that I want to share.  Here is the tentative schedule.




  • Food and it’s emotional side
  • Expert coaching advice from Coach Dean on how to not give up in the middle of your work out.
  • A personal trainers tips on how to get started with an exercise program
  • Swimming vs. running  Q&A
  • How to buy the right running/walking shoes for your feet

Hopefully that sounds good to you all.  And of course, there will be my daily updates of the wonderful and wacky weight loss journey 🙂


Simple ways I increased my activity for weight loss

Caped MaxI used to be really active in high school.  I played football and basketball.  I also lifted weights regularly for these two sports.  Over the years I slowed way down as far as activity goes.  By the time I started Weight Watchers in Dec. 2006, I wasn’t doing any exercises except practicing how I was going to order my deep fried burrito at the gas station.  I didn’t really even want to start exercising but my sister talked me into it.  I decided at that time I would do as little as possible and if I stopped losing I would increase the amount.  I started with 12 minutes, 3 times per week on the stationary bike.  It wasn’t hard, I just didn’t want to put anymore effort into it.

As I started to lose more weight and I realized that activity was making a big difference in the rate at which I lost, I decided to do a paradigm shift.  I figured it would be good to just add activity into the small places in my life.  I think that these little additions helped me lose and also helped me not look at activity in such a negative way.

  • I started to use a pedometer.  This was exciting to me and gave me a tangible way to see my activity victories.
  • I started parking far away in all parking lots.  I never would have don’t that before.
  • I started to use the stairs when I could find them.
  • I started to walk with my sister when we would talk and catch up on things.
  • I tried not to sit down at work as much and move as much as possible.

Hopefully I am not boring you guys.  I need to talk about how I got to where I’m at so I can remember what I need to do right now.  I needed to remind myself to increase the activity in these small areas of my life AGAIN. These are just simple little things I did to increase my activity.  Not big things, just little changes that transformed how I viewed exercise.


weight loss lies: I lie to myself about food

I have to admit it.  I lie about food.  No, I don’t lie to you, or my wife, or my family about food.  I lie to myself about food.  I walk by my pantry and grab a small handful of my wife’s special “healthy nuts”.  These nuts that have all the good fat in them.  The moment they touch my lips the lie is born.  What is the lie you ask?  I tell myself that the nuts didn’t count.  I tell myself that there wasn’t enough nuts to make a difference in my points or weight loss goals. 

Another way that I lie is I will grab a HUUUUUGE potato, look in my WW book to find the points value, see “small potato=xxx”, and then I am like “Cool, my potato is on the medium to small side, so it is only xxx points.”  These lies don’t hurt anyone other than me.  When I hit the scale for a weigh in and I don’t do that great, do I have a right to be disappointed when I have been lying to myself all week. I don’t think so.

It is so important to just be honest.  So what!!  I ate some healthy nuts.  I go over my points, not a huge deal.  The huge deal comes when you want to maintain a weight loss and you have no “real” information to base your points adjustments on.  I might lower my points because I gained and then I feel hungry all the time.  Why?  Because I never needed to lower my points because I never actual ate the amount of points that I tell myself that I ate.  Does this make any sense at all?